30 Years and 20 Questions

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On Tuesday, I will be celebrating thirty years of marriage to my best friend. When we got married, we were young and thought we knew it all, but we didn't have a clue of what was to come. Now that we are older, we are wise enough to admit that we still don't have a clue. I've heard other couples say that as time goes on, they love each other more than ever and I can honestly say that is true. Aside from God who is my refuge, my hope eternal, this man is my safe place on earth. Absolutely there are times when we don't see eye to eye and, of course, we do things to annoy each other. I used to feel the need to point these things out when friends or family would tell me about their relationship struggles, but the fact of the matter is that we have been blessed. We have made the commitment, we have put in the hard work, and we are still learning to live unselfishly. I love and respect him more than ever. In this week's blog, I will be sharing our answers to "Couples Challenge Questions" that I found on Pinterest.

Q1: Who finds it harder to admit they're wrong?

A1: Both! We are both pretty stubborn and like to be right.

Q2: Who has the better date ideas?

A2: I do, because he is content just hanging out at home.

Q3: Who out of us both fell in love first?

A3: We think he did, but we asked each other "What is falling in love?" We instantly enjoyed hanging out together and making each other laugh. Love was a choice that grew over time.

Q4: Who would last longer in a zombie apocalypse?

A4: Definitely him! I would panic and give up.

Q5: Who's the boss in the relationship?

A5: He jokes that I am, but I do not want to be! I would say that he follows my suggestions unless he has a strong opinion otherwise, in which case we discuss and compromise.

Q6: Who is the messiest out of us both?

A6: He is because he is okay with things being out of place.

Q7: Who has more patience?

A7: I do, in general. He likes things resolved quickly.

Q8: Who buys the better gifts?

A8: He does! He is very thoughtful when it comes to gift giving. He tries to give useful gifts because he knows I am frugal and practical.

Q9: Who has the best jokes?

A9: We agreed to call it a tie on this one. "Laughter is the best medicine."

Q10: Who asked who out first on a date?

A10: Technically, me, but we were in 9th grade. I wasn't even allowed to date until I was sixteen so we will go with him on this one. He asked me out in September after we graduated high school.

Q11: Who has more friends?

A11: I do. He said he has more acquaintances while I have more cultured friendships. 

Q12: Who is grumpier?

A12: We agreed it was him but only until after 9 p.m.

Q13: Who takes longer to get ready for work?

A13: Me, because I have a morning routine. He rolls out of bed and is ready to go.

Q14: Who is more romantic?

A14: Neither, we are not a "romance" couple, and we think that's okay. 

Q15: Who is more of a wimp when it comes to being ill?

A15: After much discussion, we called a truce on this question.

Q16: Who has had the most ex-partners?

A16: Him, and we will leave it at that.

Q17: Who gets angry when they're hungry?

A17: Me, for sure!

Q18: Who had the better dating profile?

A18: We got together in the dark ages, before dating profiles were a thing.

Q19: Who always apologizes first after a fight?

A19: Always? That's a lot to live up to. I think we are mutual when we know we are the cause of the argument.

Q20: Who is the better driver?

A20: He says, "They saved a fighting question for last" and then said he would go with me as being the better driver (because he knows it's true 😉).

We had a fun time discussing these questions. I was kind of surprised to see how in sync we were with "most" of our answers.  I will leave you with these well-known verses from 1 Corinthians 3:4-7 (CSB) and ask that you reflect upon the words whether you are in a "romantic" relationship or not. God has called us to love others more than ourselves, even our enemies. I leave you with this challenge. 

"Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."


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